Your familiar relationships after a
divorce can start to feel a little unusual as time goes on. If you share children
with your ex-spouse and they eventually remarry, then you will suddenly
child custody with their new spouse as well. At the same time, your child will have
to readjust to gaining a new stepparent, which can be confusing or exciting
to them. When everything is considered, it is easy to feel overwhelmed
or confused by where you stand in your family now. By knowing how to get
along or deal with your child’s new stepparent, you can start to
find solidity again.
When you need to interact with your child’s stepparent, keep these
tips in mind:
Be yourself: Whenever you deal with your child’s new stepparent, just be yourself
and act naturally. Trying to put up a front will feel inauthentic, and
it might even confuse or upset your child.
Think cooperatively: Your child’s stepparent will probably also want what is best for
your child, but you will not know it if the two of you feel like you are
at odds. Do your best to approach each opportunity to interact as one
to grow closer together. Among yourself, your ex-spouse, and their current
spouse, you can all provide a loving environment for your children.
Let your child make decisions: Sometimes your child will have the chance to decide to do something with
you or their new stepparent. In such a situation, let them make that choice
on their own. Coercing your child will eventually breed distrust among
Stay patient: Everything about your new familial situation will take time. Do not try
to rush things. Given enough time and chances to interact, you and your
child’s stepparent will get more and more used to each other. You
might even find a new friend in them.
Follow child custody agreements: The worst thing you can do when you are not getting along well with your
child’s stepparent or ex-spouse is trying to go outside your
child custody agreement to spend more time with your child. Knowingly violating your custody agreement
can be a fast way to lose parenting rights altogether if the matter is
taken to court.
Avoid belittling your ex-spouse or the new stepparent: This happens often and tends to slant their judgment. Your child's
learning to accept the reality of shared custody so favoring them to be
bias about the new stepparent can cause confusion.
Do you need help with a child custody agreement, or another form of
family law concern? Owenby Law, P.A. in Jacksonville, Florida can provide you with the experienced
and compassionate legal counsel you need to make sense of everything and
move forward. Call
904.770.3141 today to
schedule your free initial consultation with our firm.