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Talking to Your Children About Divorce

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Separating from a spouse is rarely easy, but it can be challenging when children are involved. It's important to be honest with your children about the situation while ensuring they don't feel responsible or ashamed of the divorce. This blog will discuss how to have a productive and honest conversation with your children about divorce.

Timing Is Everything

Choose an appropriate time for the conversation, as well as an appropriate setting. Make sure that both you and your partner are present for the discussion to avoid confusion from your children regarding who said what. It is also wise to choose a time when emotions are not running too high so that everyone can remain calm and collected throughout the conversation.

Be Honest

When talking to your children about divorce, honesty is key. Don't sugarcoat the situation - be clear about why you two are separating and why it's best for everyone involved. Make sure that neither you nor your partner take any blame or assign fault - this isn't helpful or productive and could potentially lead to feelings of guilt on behalf of your child(ren). If necessary, have a pre-conversation with your spouse before speaking with your kids to make sure each of you are on the same page regarding what needs to be said for things to go smoothly.

Preparing Your Child For The Transition

Once you have discussed why you two are separating, prepare them for their transition into a new home life (if applicable). Let them know where they will live, how often they will see each parent, etc., so there is less confusion during this difficult time. Depending on how old/mature your child(ren) are, discussing custody arrangements may be something you need to do as well. Discussing these matters in advance allows them some agency in their own lives during such a trying period of transition for everyone involved.

Working Together Toward a Successful Outcome

Talking to children about divorce can be an emotionally charged experience for all parties involved - however, it doesn't have to be overwhelmingly negative. By following these tips - choosing the right timing and setting, being honest, and preparing them for their transition - you can ensure that this experience will help bring your family closer rather than tear them apart further down the line. Divorce isn't easy - but having a productive conversation with your kids upfront can ease some of the stress associated with such a significant lifestyle change! With proper communication and preparation, family members can come out stronger on the other side of this process together!

How a Jacksonville, FL Divorce Attorney Can Help

If you are considering divorce, it is important to have an experienced divorce attorney from Owenby Law, P.A. on your side. A lawyer can guide you through the entire process and provide helpful advice on how to manage conversations with your children about divorce. Your attorney will also ensure that your rights are protected throughout every step of the legal proceedings.

If you are thinking about the divorce process and don't know where to begin, contact us today at (904) 770-3141.