Co-parenting is rarely easy, especially during the summertime. Between
planning for summer break, scheduling beach days, booking family vacations,
and finding time for other scheduled events, dealing with your summer
schedule can be overwhelming. If you share parenting responsibilities
with your ex, juggling each of your schedules to work out your plan for
the summer might be especially challenging.
To avoid any unnecessary arguments this year, try following these essential
tips for effective co-parenting over the summer:
1. Make a New Summer Schedule
Attempting to continue with your existing parenting plan might not be the
best option for you this summer. Instead of trying to make your current
arrangement work, try working out a new, temporary parenting plan that
you and your ex can put into effect over the summer. Factor in vacation
plans, special events, daily childcare options, extracurricular activities,
and anything else that could affect your regular plans. You might choose
to meet and discuss your new schedule in person, or more contentious parents
might opt for something less interactive, like email or a shared calendar app.
2. Be Flexible
It might be difficult to be understanding and flexible when your ex doesn’t
cooperate with your plans, but do what you can to view the issue from
their perspective. You both love your children and want what is best for
them, so try to keep that common goal in mind and do what you can to allow
for necessary changes when things come up. Standing your ground is all
well and good, but there is a time and a place. If the two of you disagree
about certain vacations, weekend plans, or summer camp arrangements, try
to focus on finding a fair compromise rather than arguing your point.
3. Communicate Whenever Possible
Sometimes plans change, and you should be able to communicate those upcoming
adjustments with your co-parent. If something comes up and it in any way
affects your children or your parenting plan, make sure you tell your
co-parent about it as soon as possible. Whether you’re dealing with
changes to vacation plans, pick-up delays, or a daycare issue, make sure
you keep your ex in the loop.
4. Let Your Kids Have a Say
Remember, summer is an exciting time for your children, so make sure their
voices are heard. It’s easy to get caught up in the competition
for time with your ex, but remember to put your issues aside for the sake
of your children. If they want to take swim lessons, join a summer camp,
or go to a friend’s birthday party, try to fit some of their wishes
into your parenting schedule.
Even though co-parenting has its challenges, with the right mentality and
an effective plan, it is possible to co-parent effectively over the summer
and all year round. However, if you and your ex continue to have trouble
working through your disagreements, our firm can help you seek a parenting
If you need help dealing with a child custody or visitation issue, contact Owenby Law, P.A.
for legal assistance.